You can do hard things

“You can do hard things”- @Adrienne_ldn.

As many of my family and friends know, I am a goal setter. I am a creature of habit who needs structure and routine in her life. Goal setting allows me to have the routine that I crave as well as work through the year achieving micro and macro goals. It allows me to look back at the end of each year and remind myself of how much I managed to accomplish. But don’t get me wrong that makes it sound easy. Goal setting is the easy bit, the hard work comes next.

At the end of 2018 I set myself the goal of running a half marathon. I don’t run- well I didn’t run then. I decided to go one Saturday morning to my local ParkRun and have a bash at it. I was unfit and out of shape. I managed to limp to the finish line in 36 minutes, cursing every step of the way. I tell you this because I think it’s important for you to know how difficult I find running and it’s not something I am naturally strong in.

So, rather than throw in the towel after hobbling through my first run and tell myself I was just not cut out for it I chose to see the potential room for improvement. I signed up for the Edinburgh Half Marathon in aid of Mental Health Aberdeen.

I remember phoning my dad after signing up and all he said was, “did you not think of starting off with a 10km Meg? 13 miles is a long way.” He is not wrong this challenge is probably the biggest fitness and endurance goal I have ever set myself- but I chose to run a half marathon because I believe it’s important to do hard things.

I can’t say I spring out of bed ready for a run every morning and some runs are much more successful than others. But there is so much magic in running. I began to realise that it was so much more than physical and actually my biggest hurdles have been battling with the negative self talk while running and getting into a meditative zone where my pace and breathing almost become one.

Running has become far more than a form of physical exercise to me, it has opened me up to a world I had never experienced.

The running community is incredibly accepting both on and offline. When you go to your local ParkRun- seriously go to one they are amazing- you see a whole host of people. Different ages, shapes, sizes, and abilities all running, jogging and walking together.

The people who attend my local ParkRun in Ellon are such kind and caring individuals who actually make running fun. They high five you on route, they help you up the hill at the end when you feel like your legs have nothing left to give and they really want to see you achieve a PB or make you feel good in yourself.

In the online world I began following an incredible influencer @adrienne_ldn who inspired this post. She is a fitness influencer who has a passion for running. She hosts The Power Hour podcast which I love listening to when I’m pounding the pavements and her happy, motivational outlook on life pushes me forward when running feels too difficult. She made me realise that it’s important to do hard things and to push myself out my comfort zone. By staying in the comfort zone you never grow or change.

This started out as a way to raise money for Mental Health Aberdeen which is a local mental health service that I personally benefitted from in 2017 and want to give back to. In an increasingly uncertain world we are becoming more anxious and depressed than ever before and we need these charities to continue to get funding in order for them to continue the amazing work that they do for those in their care. I’ll link my Just Giving page below and if you feel inclined to support me at the end of May then I will be extremely grateful.

Run for your life. Run for your soul. Run when it feels easy and when it feels hard because remember- you can do hard things!

https://www.justgiving.com/fundraising/megan-keith1

The post uni blues no one talks about

Graduation was the best day of my life- hands down. I felt an overwhelming sense of achievement that day that all the hard work and graft I had put in over four years was being recognised and had paid off. I was surrounded by my caring and supportive family who were all equally as proud of me as I was and it was such a special day I hold very close to my heart.

Graduating is an amazing time; a time for prosperity, new beginnings and new adventure. However, when summer is over and a new University year begins you all of a sudden begin to feel very left out. You’re not going back there when a lot of your friends are. Going out drinking mid week isn’t as acceptable now you’re no longer a student either. For the last four years you have had this student label attached to you and if you’re unemployed or working any job you can just to pay the bills you begin to feel like you have lost a community and a sense of belonging.

I also moved home after finishing my studies because I wanted to be able to save money and have the flexibility to move for a job in an instant. I found moving home incredibly difficult. I had lost a sense of freedom. I didn’t like having to report to my parents and let them know what I was up to. I struggled to slot back into the home family environment and really resented the fact I had to do it. I also lived quite some distance away from my friends so popping out the door and walking down the street to grab a coffee and have a catch up was no longer an option meaning I began to feel very lonely too.

Then there’s the job applications. The dreaded job applications. I couldn’t tell you the number of jobs I applied to, the number of enquiries I made and the amount of unpaid work I did to try and get myself a job. It seemed never ending and it seemed like I was failing. I couldn’t understand it; I had done everything right. I had worked hard at school to get the grades for uni, I then continued to work hard in order to graduate with a 2:1 and had worked for several different companies whilst doing so to gain the work experience. I had been on several uni sports teams and committees and volunteered too. All CV boosting skills I had been told. But they weren’t enough and I wasn’t enough. My confidence hit rock bottom. I was embarrassed because my cohorts from university were all getting jobs or travelling the world while all I felt was stuck. Stuck with no way out.

No one tells you how lonely graduating is and how getting a foot in the door in a graduate job is increasingly difficult. I don’t think people appreciate how difficult the transition from student to graduate is and so many of us suffer in silence thinking we’re going through it alone.

But I promise it will get easier. A job will come around and it may not be your dream career (no one really loves their first job) but it will give you the tools and experience to later get into that dream job role you were always hoping for. Remember to step away from the computer and don’t frantically apply to anything and everything. I did so much of that and people can see right through it- they can tell you’re not the right fit for theming their business because your heart isn’t in it. Take time out to do the things you love and remember this is only temporary. It’s a challenge to be faced and it will make you a stronger person.

#Littlegirlsdeservebetter

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A warm welcome to today’s very special post from my smiling moon beam face! I woke up this morning and four words came to the front of my mind: Little Girls Deserve Better. For those who have been following my blog a while you will know I am a self love activist who wants young girls to grow up with more genuine and diverse role models in their lives. I want to be the change that I want to see on this planet! So, I decided to launch the campaign #littlegirlsdeservebetter.

I’ve not always liked my skin and I certainly did struggle with acne until my early twenties. It took a complete knock out of my confidence, I was bullied at school for my imperfect looks and for not quite fitting in with my peers. But this isn’t about me; you don’t need to hear my sob story because the past will not change the future.

Little girls growing up today deserve better than what we were sold when we were younger. They do not need to see very real and natural bodies being slated on the covers of magazines for having a tiny midriff or some cellulite hugging their thighs. They need to see REAL women standing up and sharing something that they want little girls to know.

I’ll start…

“Little girls deserve better. Magazines shouldn’t make them feel bad for having imperfect skin. Little girls should be running around and having fun with their friends and not worrying about the pimples that are on their faces. They should not have to beg their mothers to buy them make up to wear to school because others are being unkind towards their looks. You are beautiful. You do not need to cover your natural beauty. Spots are so normal! Yet we are told they are ugly and something that needs to be fixed. You are young. Go out into the world and be who you want to be regardless of your skin. Focus your energy reading books, studying hard at school, playing with your friends, baking cakes. Do whatever makes you happy and never stop doing it because of a few marks on your skin. You are a goddess and always worthy.”

Be the change that you want to see.

Today I urge other women and men to join me in this campaign. I want it to stretch the globe because little girls everywhere need to hear your message. I want little girls to love the skin they’re in. What do you want for them? What do you believe they deserve? It can be anything that resonates with you. It can be body positivity related; you might think they deserve a more eco friendly planet; you might want them to know their unique fashion sense is special and valued. You might want them to know that having a boyfriend doesn’t make them whole and their independence should be celebrated! Whatever it may be, post a picture and share with the #littlegirlsdeservebetter then tag three friends to send the message out further.

I can’t wait to read all your wonderful stories. I want this to make a difference and even make one young girl proud of herself because she is beautiful on the inside and out.