Today’s post has been written by the WONDERFUL Sarah from Self Love Sarah. She is one hell of a woman. Someone striving to help others love themselves and feel more confident in their own bodies. She genuinely brightens up my Instagram feed EVERY DAMN DAY. I hope you love reading her guide to body positivity as much as I did! Also head over to her online platforms and give her some lovin!
In a world where we are surrounded by diet culture, and are constantly told to count our calories, slim down our waists and [add your own body insecurity here], no wonder we find it so hard to love or even be comfortable in the skin we are in!
We are constantly told, whether it’s by the adverts we watch, the leaflets that come through our letterbox or even subconsciously by the diet talk we get sucked into at work, that we are not good enough and we need to change ourselves, and mainly our bodies, to look a certain way. An acceptable way.
Well I call bullshit. It’s time to start a revolution ladies. Time to end the war with our bodies and fall in love with ourselves again.
Body positivity (BOPO) can be seen as one of those woo-woo terms that make people cringe. It is a hot topic right now with the evident rise of the body positive community on social media. However, in my opinion, body positivity isn’t some woo-woo new trend on the internet, it’s a necessity and a right for all women.
So, let’s get clear on what body positivity is and more importantly what it is not:
- Being body positive is not staring at yourself in the mirror telling yourself you love yourself, but not really meaning it.
- Being body positive doesn’t mean you have to love every single part of your body all the time.
- Body positivity is not before and after weight loss photos.
- Body positivity is not #gains, forcing yourself to exercise in a way you hate just to fit into that little black dress.
- Body positivity is not promising to love yourself after you’ve lost those five pounds.
So, what is body positivity?
- It’s accepting your body for exactly how it is in this present moment.
- It’s showing gratitude for what your body can do, not focusing on what it can’t do.
- It’s adopting a mind-set that EVERY single body is unique and worthy – and I mean EVERY single body.
- It’s speaking kindly to yourself.
- It’s not shaming any body – size, shape, colour, race, age, gender.
- It’s realising that you are more than just your body. You are your soul. Your body is just a vehicle. But it’s the only one you have. So, love it and treat it with kindness.
- It’s the freedom to express and decorate yourself and your body however you want to.
- It’s giving a huge middle finger to the society who tells you that you need to look a certain way in order to be worthy, accepted or loved.
- It’s accepting that you are enough exactly as you are right now.
If you’re reading this and thinking – this shit is hard! Don’t worry! I’ve got your back. It is hard, which is why I’m going to share with you my top 5 tips for practicing body positivity. And the reason I say practicing, is because body positivity is a practice. It is not an end result. You won’t just wake up one day and be like “Yay. I’m body positive now. I love myself. I love my body. I made it”. Body positivity is a journey, it’s a practice. Some days we will rock at it, some days we won’t. Some days we will have those unkind thoughts about ourselves, and that’s okay.
So here are my top 5 tips to help you on your body positive journey:
Throw out the scales. How many of you just read this and tensed up? Yep, the first tip is probably the hardest, but it will change your life. Why are you judging your worth and living your life based on a number on a block of plastic and glass? The scales literally just tell us our gravitational pull to the earth? It’s just a number. You are not a number. You are so much more than a number. These scales don’t tell you how beautiful, intelligent, creative, kind, caring, loving and amazing you are. Trust me, getting rid of the scales is such a freeing feeling. Take them out now – preferably with a sledge hammer.
Ditch the diet culture. Want to lose weight? I’ve got the secret – the real secret. Get rid of any diet-culture related influences in your life. Throw away the slimming club magazines, unfollow the people on social media who try to convince you that you need to change or make you feel bad about yourself. Stop buying foods with the words ‘diet’ or ‘light’ in them. Stop meeting up with so called ‘friends’ who only talk about how much weight they want to lose. And after dropping all of this diet-culture deadweight, notice yourself feel instantly lighter.
Connect to your body. Our broken-down relationships with our bodies and with food all stem back to a lack of connection with ourselves. It’s time to connect back to and really listen to our bodies. Our bodies are so freaking clever. Think about everything they are doing right now just to keep you alive – breathing, digesting, pumping blood around body, sending millions of tiny signals all around you – without you even having to think about it. Your body really does know what is best for you. So, start tuning in to what she has to say. I like to connect to my body through yoga, meditation, journaling, getting into nature, self-care pampering and my favourite one – dancing like there is nobody watching!
Sprinkle kindness like confetti. The way we treat other people is a direct representation of how we treat ourselves. So, if you find yourself judging other women by how they look or having unkind thoughts about other women (hey no judgement from here – we’ve all been there!) then the likelihood is you have these judgemental, unkind thoughts about yourself. Start complimenting other women regularly, cheerlead them, support them, uplift them, empower them. And then notice how your own thoughts towards yourself become kinder.
Practice gratitude. Gratitude is the new attitude you know? We find it so easy to focus on everything we are not. To focus on what we haven’t got. To change ourselves to be something else. Instead, let’s focus on everything we are and everything we have. Be grateful for yourself and your body and everything it can do right now. When you switch your mind-set from scarcity (lack) to gratitude (abundance), you start to live a full up life and realise you have everything you need right in front of you – including a gloriously, unique, one of a kind body.
So there you have it, my top 5 tips for practicing body positivity. Why not try integrating just one of these into your life? Then maybe two, three? You get the idea! But most importantly, do it with love and curiosity. No judgement or comparison.
And just because you are wonderful, here is a little bonus tip from me:
Be true. Be you. Be kind. Because you are fucking fabulous!
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